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❝ Feminism is not about who opens the jar.

It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.

It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.

But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it. ❞
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Posted 14 Sep with 0 notesreblog

auwhereicare:

accelgors:

"getting good grades doesn’t mean you’re smart" no but it means you’re a hard and efficient worker which is much more important

You know, apart from the people who don’t work at all and get amazing grades. Also, the people he work extremely hard but just can’t get good grades either due to the system (ahem, pointing to the NCEA system in particular) or just because they don’t have the skills to memorise a textbook.

i have literally never seen a single person that does no work and gets good grades. maybe they do well on tests but they don’t do assignments so they don’t get good grades. it usually requires work and it’s annoying how much people act like grades don’t mean anything because they usually reflect how much work you’re putting in, these cases of people getting bad grades while still working hard aren’t really nearly as common as people say (there’s a difference between being stressed or upset about something and doing work). i feel like a lot of the attitude on this site about grades and complaining about working hard and still getting bad grades are just because people on tumblr aren’t self-sufficient and they’re entitled, and expect everything to be handed to do them with just a tiny amount of trying because they haven’t tried at all before

there’s a such thing as working hard and still doing badly but it hardly ever happens to people that are legitimately doing hard work and doing it the right way honestly, and being good at schoolwork and actually putting in effort are signs of traits that are really important, more than this vibe i get from people here of “i’m so smart but i just never show it and i’m actually brilliant”. maybe they really are that smart and know that many facts but that doesn’t matter nearly as much as being a hard worker no matter what people here think

Posted 14 Sep with 7 notesreblog

genderfag:

people legitimately believe responding to being called slurs with “die” or “kill yourself” is problematic

anti suicide politics are only ever used to silence victims of oppression

i usually don’t like getting into arguments with people i find on here anymore but this post isn’t just stupid, it’s also incredibly fucking offensive, and it has a decent amount of notes

how dare you try to paint people trying to help victims as silencing you when you’re telling people to fucking kill themselves. (oh no, i can’t tell people to kill themselves, how tragic! i’m crying for you) anti suicide “politics” are people keeping victims safe and comfortable. but you think it’s ok to throw that out the window just because you want the right to tell people to kill themselves???

you’re a selfish baby. as a formerly suicidal person, yes it DOES make me unhappy and uncomfortable and offended when someone tells someone else to kill themselves. i can say with certainty it probably makes other victims feel that way as well. why does this not matter to you??? are you just a terrible person??? who knows!

you just don’t care enough about people’s health and safety to not say things like that to them. this goes out to all of tumblr: i don’t care if you don’t like someone, it is NEVER, EVER acceptable to tell someone to kill themselves. someone killing themselves is a horrible tragedy that in my view is worse than a regular death and it should be taken with much more respect than what you people give it. also, you shouldn’t want people to die just because you don’t like them. seriously, it’s so disturbing how you guys respond to anyone doing something bad to you with wishing death on them. that isn’t what a mature person does. a mature person accepts that humans have flaws and also that some people are just assholes, but it doesn’t mean that they deserve to die, because they also accept that every human has much more to them than the one time they were rude to you.

stop trying to paint people as being oppressive and corrupt for trying to help people just because it takes away one of your mechanisms for being disgusting towards people. if you’re not still in middle school, you have the mentality of someone who is.

everyone will make as many stupid excuses as they want, but someone who tells other people they don’t even know well to die is always wrong and coming from a place of disgusting amounts of irrational malice. it’s wrong to let anger turn you into something like this. bottom line.

Posted 14 Sep with 389 notesreblog

"getting good grades doesn’t mean you’re smart" no but it means you’re a hard and efficient worker which is much more important

Posted 10 Sep with 7 notesreblog

teachytv:

10 years ago today, Ebony Dark’ness Dementia Raven Way went back in time to sedouce Volxemort and protect all of us from his evil plans

reblog this post to honor Enoby’s brave sacrifice, ignore if you’re a prep or a poser

Posted 7 Sep with 60,501 notesreblog

yeah she can be annoying but you guys need to leave this anita/femfreq/whatever her name is girl alone like people are going way too far and she doesn’t need to hear how terrible she is over and over for this long, it’s time to stop

Posted 7 Sep with 1 notereblog

geybie:

perfect bands don’t exi-

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Posted 6 Sep with 16,759 notesreblog

seriously one of the worst things you can do is pretend to like someone as a joke like that’s just really mean

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